I have had to take time off recently to look after my mum as she is currently undergoing treatment for cancer and has no one else to look out for her after her treatments at hospital. I have not told my employer and have so far called in sick or taken annual leave when my mum has needed me. I was recently confronted by my manager about the number of my absences. I am not sure whether I should have revealed why I have been absent from work so frequently as I am not sure I would get a sympathetic ear?
You are effectively caring for a dependant and it is not easy having to juggle work commitments with such family commitments. I can understand why your mum would be relying upon you if she feels she has no one else. I think what you are doing for your mum is admirable but you need to be upfront with your manager about your situation.
The reason I say this is that on the face of it, you will potentially be viewed as someone who is lacking in commitment and essentially unreliable due to your absence record. You need to be able to explain yourself in order to allow your employer to put matters into context. Many firms are flexible in providing leave to employees in order to deal with family commitments. However, such leave normally only covers adequate time in which to allow you to put alternative care arrangements in place.
Your employer may however, allow you to take further annual leave or unpaid leave to allow you to assist your mum over a longer period and to seek alternative help. You should contact some cancer charities in order to see what help is available in terms of voluntary support and assistance. By seeking such help you would be helping yourself as well as your mum.
Although there is no guarantee that you will get a sympathetic ear from your employer even after you reveal the truth, you will at least be setting the record straight and be able to vocalise your commitment to your job.
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