I’ve been taken into confidence by one of my colleagues who seems on a real downer because of pressures of work and of his home life. He confirmed to me that he has been struggling to cope and dreads coming into work because of feeling inadequate. His wife recently gave birth to their child and sleep deprivation seems to be an issue. He has not been himself of late, as he normally is quite sociable but now comes into work late and leaves early; he also seems to be missing important work deadlines. My boss has noted the change in my colleague and recently commented that he is concerned about his lack of productivity and that he did not seem to be pulling his weight. I’m not sure whether I should say something to my boss in order to try to explain things, as I am concerned that if my colleague is criticised about his performance, this may result in him feeling even more downcast.
You clearly are someone that your colleague feels he can trust and confide in, and that is really important. It is therefore not advisable for you to disclose your colleague’s issues to your boss, as this may inevitably cause your colleague to feel betrayed (no matter how good your intentions), and in any case it may not make much difference to how your boss feels about the situation. Indeed it may be that your boss already has an awareness of the potential issues, but nevertheless has little sympathy due to the overall pressures on the team.
It is more important for you to try to lend a sympathetic ear to your colleague and explain the importance of him getting some help before matters escalate. For example, suggest going for a walk at lunchtime or grabbing a coffee after work, perhaps with other colleagues in order to allow him to feel more part of the team again. Also suggest that he try to get some one-to-one help by speaking to his GP in the first instance; he will not be the first nor the last new parent to struggle at times with juggling parenthood with work commitments, and it is important that he is able to acknowledge this and to seek appropriate help.
You could also suggest that your colleague speak directly with your boss in order to confirm he is struggling at the moment and that he may need to take some annual leave in order to take some time out and feel recharged.
Trust is a precious thing and you clearly have the ability to enable others to put their trust in you; therefore, look to preserve this truly precious quality and take steps to help your colleague by continuing to be there.
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- How will Brexit affect my mother-in-law?
- Settling the debate on sequestration
- Taking wellbeing seriously
- How will personal data continue to flow after Brexit?
- Buildmark, and a little extra help for NHBC
- Reading for pleasure
- Opinion: Laurie Anderson
- Book reviews
- Profile: Lord Mackay of Clashfern
- President's column
- People on the move
- Is your legal software ready to remain compliant in 2019?
- What's the deal?
- Ready to leave?
- A tapering opportunity
- Brexit: no dealbreaker either
- The business of divorce
- Trailblazing 12
- Cohabitants: rebalancing the law
- Litigation: an evolving scene
- Chain transactions
- When delay is not fatal
- Data protection – deal or no-deal?
- Two cases and an order
- Reshaping trade mark law
- When the wheels come off
- Parentage or privacy?
- Access right, right of access or right of way?
- Team of one
- Public policy highlights
- OPG update
- Housing specialism added to accreditation list
- At the boundary's edge
- Keep the dual role
- Executry and trust accounting: new guidance
- Moving nightmares
- Accredited paralegal update
- Sign up for conference
- Accredited Paralegal Committee profile
- Ask Ash